Ugh! The Myth of Balance for a Working Parent
Tell me something…What comes to mind when you hear the phrase: “Work-life balance”? This much used phrase brings forth the idea that we can have a fulfilling and happy life while maintaining a demanding career. However, the reality is that this isn’t the case for many of us. As working parents, our lives are already stretched thin with commitments to family and work – then there are all those other things on top of that pile like housekeeping, groceries shopping, cooking dinner every night…it’s enough to make you want to stay in bed!
I have two busy boys and I am also juggling multiple businesses: some days I can barely make it to bed before midnight, and other days I’m up at the crack of dawn to complete lunch prep and find a moment for myself to plan my day before I take my kids to daycare and school. As a working parent, there just needs to be more time in the day for everything we need and want to do! I know I don’t speak for everyone, but the reality of balance in life is a myth.
So how do we, as working parents, manage our time and responsibilities? Here are a few of the tips that I use as my guiding light:
Ask for help!
One of the best lessons as a parent is realizing when and where you need help. Do not be afraid to ask for help! Whether it’s from your spouse, family members or friends, there is no shame in admitting that you need assistance.
Create a routine
It is very important to come up with a routine for your whole family to refer to and work through at all times. Not only does it keep things organized, a routine teaches your family to remain disciplined, and saves you a lot of time too!
Have a calendar
I am sure you know how easy it is for some chores to slip through the cracks when life gets busy. That’s why having a calendar whether digital or physical is a lifesaver. I use mine to keep track of everything: school events, work deadlines, grocery lists, and even personal time. Scheduling things ahead of time helps reduce stress and makes it easier to manage the chaos that comes with being a working parent.
Let Go of Perfection
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned as a working mom is that perfection is overrated. The house won’t always be spotless, dinner won’t always be a gourmet meal, and sometimes emails will go unanswered until the next morning. And that’s okay! Striving for perfection only leads to burnout. Instead, focus on progress on making each day manageable rather than perfect.
Make Time for What Truly Matters
When your to-do list is never-ending, it’s easy to feel like there’s no time left for what really matters your family and your well-being. That’s why I intentionally carve out time for my kids, whether it’s reading bedtime stories, having a weekend movie night, or simply chatting with them about their day. Those little moments matter more than a perfectly structured schedule.
The same goes for self-care. It’s easy to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, but here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Prioritize Mummy Time. Whether it’s an hour at the gym, a coffee date with a friend, or just 15 minutes of quiet time, giving yourself a break makes you a better parent, a better entrepreneur, and a better person overall.
Give Yourself Grace
At the end of the day, balance is not a destination it’s a constant juggling act. Some days, work will take priority. Other days, family will. And that’s life. Instead of striving for a “perfect” balance, embrace the ebb and flow. Give yourself grace, ask for help when you need it, and celebrate the small wins.
So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by the idea of work-life balance, remember this: you’re not alone, and you’re doing better than you think. The goal isn’t to do it all it’s to do what matters most, with love and intention.
Now tell me what’s your biggest struggle when it comes to balancing work and life?
